Table For One

Reflections on the unmarried life by our singleton-about-town.

A Modern Orthodox Miracle

For one religious single woman, unmarried motherhood is a gift.

10/27/2014 - 20:00
Contributing Editor

Divorced and childless at 23, each year for the next decade on Rosh HaShanah, Julie Yusupov would walk to her synagogue and, in hopes of one day becoming a mother, say a traditional prayer on the welfare of children for parents and those who hope to become parents. She also prayed to find the right husband with whom to start a family.

Heather Robinson

Forgiving Ourselves For Being Single

Fighting off guilt at the High Holidays.

10/08/2014 - 20:00
Contributing Editor

When Lee Bernstein, a Manhattan dentist, was in his late 30's, he bought an engagement ring for his 26-year-old girlfriend, who had just graduated from dental school. Next he took it and showed it to her parents. Her mother, he recalls, compared its size to that of her own ring, which made him uncomfortable. Her father warned him he had better not back out like the last guy who proposed to his daughter.

Heather Robinson

Romancing The Minimum Wage

In which a fictional NYC singleton tries to decide whether to go left or right.

09/01/2014 - 20:00
Contributing editor / blueprint editor

The decline of marriage over the last generation has helped create an emerging voting bloc of unmarried women that is profoundly reshaping the American electorate to the advantage, recent elections suggest, of the Democratic Party. What is far from clear is whether Democrats will benefit in the midterm contests this fall.

Heather Robinson

The Fault In Our Dating Stars

Can anything tender survive on Tinder?

08/04/2014 - 20:00
Contributing Editor

In this summer’s hit film, “The Fault in Our Stars,” two cancer-stricken adolescents meet in a support group and fall deeply in love. The boy, Augustus Waters, played by Ansel Elgort, is 18, and the girl, Hazel Grace Lancaster, played by Shailene Woodley, is 16. Because Hazel is dying, their time is short. After leaving the film, it occurred to me that the type of relationship these characters share is the opposite of what many singles, Jewish and otherwise, experience in big city dating.

Heather Robinson

Reconsidering Monica Lewinsky

Should the stain of a youthful mistake last forever?

06/30/2014 - 20:00
Contributing Editor

In June’s Vanity Fair magazine, Monica Lewinsky, now 40, asks the world to reconsider who she is. In her essay, “Shame and Survival,” she writes about how, since 1998, when the news broke about her affair with former President Bill Clinton, humiliation has been her constant companion. She calls out women who consider themselves feminists, some of whom piled on the public humiliation of a then-24-year-old while, in many cases, giving a pass to the then 52-year-old Clinton for his behavior. In particular, she cites a gathering of the “New York Supergals” — a group of feminists who met to publicly dish about the scandal after it broke.

Heather Robinson

From Belarus, Without Love

Changing dating expectations in a city where men won’t grow up.

05/26/2014 - 20:00
Contributing Editor

At 20, living in a small town in Belarus, Olga (not her real name) placed her picture on a website for American men interested in meeting Russian women.

Heather Robinson

Are Jewish Singles Marketing Themselves Too Heavily?

03/24/2014 - 20:00
Contributing Editor

“… fools give you reasons, wise men never try.”

— From Rodgers and Hammerstein’s “South Pacific”

Alison Greenberg, 40, a Manhattan marketer, has been online dating for many years.

Heather Robinson

When Things Finally Click

Online dating can be rough on intimacy, but for two couples real chemistry prevailed.

02/10/2014 - 19:00
Contributing Editor

I’ve spent the last few columns pointing out the downside of online dating. Now, in honor of Valentine’s Day, a couple of stories about clicking (excuse the pun) via the computer.

Heather Robinson

The Real ‘Her’ Or The Virtual One?

Cyber-stalking and the search for real intimacy.

01/27/2014 - 19:00
Contributing Editor

Note: This is the third of three articles about online dating.

In writer-director Spike Jonze’s new film “Her,” Joaquin Phoenix plays Theodore, a personalized greeting card writer who has trouble connecting with women. Socially awkward, depressed and in the midst of a divorce, Theodore’s life gets a boost when he starts dating Samantha (played by Scarlett Johansson), an operating system, or “O.S.” Because Samantha is in fact a highly sophisticated computer, she has no physical form; rather, she is a projection of Theodore’s wants and needs.

Heather Robinson

Is Technology Killing Our Chemistry?

12/25/2013 - 19:00
Contributing Editor

Recently at an Upper West Side Chanukah party hosted by a Jewish outreach organization, where singles stood in tight cliques balancing paper plates of potato latkes and plastic cups of white wine, I observed a beautiful blonde in a simple black dress standing alone near one wall. When men were introduced to her by a friendly, connector-type guy, they would chat her up with animation, but throughout the course of the evening, not one man actually approached the young woman, whom I’ll call Leigh, on his own initiative.

Heather Robinson
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