Success Without The Tsuris

Life coaching-in-a-column from Deborah Grayson Riegel.

Are You a Who, What, How or Why? Understanding Your Communication Style

04/25/2012

"This is crazy."

"How did you do this?”

“Did you call my mother?”

Deborah Grayson Riegel

Play Ball! 20 Great Coaching Questions From The Baseball Field

04/12/2012
Jewish Week Online Columnist

To those of us who love the game, baseball is more than just a sport. It’s a lens through which we view the world and a training ground for learning valuable life lessons.

Deborah Grayson Riegel

Four Isn’t Enough: The Eight Questions You Need to Meet Your Goals (Part 2)

03/30/2012
Jewish Week Online Columnist

When I was in my early twenties, I was feeling confused about my career path, I had suffered a bad romantic breakup, and I was, in general, feeling lost. While Ben and Jerry were my usual go-to life coaches (big on quick, feel-good approaches, limited in their long-range impact planning), I decided to try an out-of-the-box, out of this world tactic: I went to see a psychic.

Deborah Grayson Riegel

Four Isn’t Enough: The Eight Questions You Need to Meet Your Goals

03/18/2012
Jewish Week Online Columnist

As a professional coach, I tend to ask my clients more questions than give answers. As a Jewish coach, you have to imagine that the proportion of questions to answers is significantly out of whack. But it works – for me, and for my clients. It works because I believe that, more often than not, we have the creativity, resourcefulness and reserves we need to figure out what we need, and even how to get there.  (Do I ever just give advice? What do you think? Sorry – old habits die hard.

Deborah Grayson Riegel

Lessons From The Backside: Why Hidden Beauty Matters

02/29/2012
Jewish Week Online Columnist

If you’re reading this on an iPhone, iPod touch, iPad or other Apple product, take a minute to look at the back of your device. Don’t worry, I’ll wait. What did you notice? Chances are you noticed that it was sleek, simple yet sophisticated – in other words, it looked and felt like an Apple product, even from behind. That’s no accident. The late Steve Jobs was taught by his father, Paul, that when you make something, you need to make sure that the back is as beautiful as the front, even if nobody sees it.

Deborah Grayson Riegel

Helpful Feedback About Hindering Behavior: Part 2

02/15/2012
Jewish Week Online Columnist

Henry Winkler (aka “The Fonz”) once commented: “Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” He makes a good point. Whether it’s a personal or professional relationship, the more that we guess about why someone behaved in a certain way – and then proceed based on our conjectures – the more trust is eaten away. Over time, the foundations of our relationships start to rot, until they crumble completely. And as I’m sure Winkler would contend, that’s not cool.

Deborah Grayson Riegel

Smite Not: Helpful Feedback About Hindering Behavior

02/01/2012
Jewish Week Online Columnist

As difficult as it may be for many of us to give or get feedback, let’s be thankful that we don’t live in Biblical times. Think about it: when God wanted to let His people know that He was unhappy with their behavior, He didn’t typically sit them down for a heart-to-heart. He didn’t share his observations about what was working and what wasn’t, and then request a change in performance to be observed over a period of time, and then re-evaluated.

Deborah Grayson Riegel

Managing Change

(Especially When You Don't Want To)

01/19/2012
Jewish Week Online Columnist

 

According to the Shocher Tov, a book of biblical commentaries, “If you behold a custom set by your forefathers, change it not!” In other words, if it was good enough for Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Rachel, Sarah, Rebecca and Leah, it should be good enough for us, right?

Deborah Grayson Riegel

The Gift and Fear of Having Healthy Parents

12/20/2011
Jewish Week Online Columnist

 

When my mother- and father-in-law brought up the subject of taking a family vacation over the winter school break, my husband Michael and I weren’t surprised. We have come to expect that we will be invited to join my in-laws someplace warm and tropical, where the only rule is that if you want a strawberry daiquiri, you have to swim up to the swim-up bar to get it yourself so that you get a little exercise.

Deborah Grayson Riegel
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