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A Patient Spirit
Count to 'ten' before you hit send.
Wed, 12/12/2012 - 19:00
Rabbi David Wolpe
Rabbi David Wolpe

In Tolstoy’s “War and Peace,” General Kutuzov exasperates his comrades by refusing to take action against Napoleon. “Maneuver,” they urge him,

“outflank, attack!” But except for ordering an occasional retreat, Kutuzov insists on doing as close to nothing as he can, and wins the war as Napoleon overextends his supply lines and is ambushed by the Russian winter. Kutuzov’s philosophy was the less you do, the less you err.

In the early part of the 20th century, a school of chess strategy developed, led by modernists Richard Réti and Aron Nimzovich, that enticed opponents to overextend pawns and pieces, making them vulnerable to attack. Once again the theory seemed to be that vigor and action are not always the best solution to a problem.

The Internet grants us the blessings of instantaneousness — and the curse of instantaneousness. Our first reactions are not always our best, wisest or most measured. I have seen sharp, unpleasant fights arise from issues that, had the individuals had to write a letter or meet in person, would never have developed. But few among us, faced with a crisis, have the wisdom of Kutuzov. “Better is the patient spirit than the lofty spirit,” teaches Ecclesiastes. Sit. Wait. Count to 10 before you hit “send.” The chance to respond will still be there but the wisdom of waiting, once gone, is gone forever.

Rabbi David Wolpe is spiritual leader of Sinai Temple in Los Angeles. Follow his teachings at

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Like that Rabbi. It's a great philosophy, as it does give one ,two great advantages, if not more. Cooler heads, come from cooler blood, cooler blood allows one to start from the beginning with clean slate. Clean slate or canvas, are much better place to express one self, without being held down by other factors or colors that might not be the right ones, for what one might wanted to achieve. Thanks for sharing.