Reply to: Boxed In By Online Dating
18 hours 52 min ago
This lady has beautiful style.
Reply to: Beit Rabban Pilot To Cap Tuition Costs
19 hours 57 min ago
"middle-income families — those making between about $150,000 and $400,000 a year"
Wow, that's an eye-opener right there.
Reply to: Republicans' War On Chanukah
1 day ago
Saying "Merry Christmas" is not a war on Judaism; ecumenical nonsense peddled by the Democrats is a war on BOTH Christianity and Judaism.
Hannukah and Christmas have nothing to do with each other. By eliminating reference to the specific holidays we damage the meaning of both holidays and both religions.
Reply to: Boxed In By Online Dating
1 day 18 min ago
I couldn't agree more! I tried dating the guys online who fit my original "checklist"... And they all turned out to be carbon copies of each other, and none too interested in who I was as an individual--just that I fit their proverbial checklist. And just as I don't want to be wanted for "checking the boxes" of the "sweet/pretty/smart/jewish girl,"I do not want to share my life with a walking checklist my Bubby wrote, but devoid of a real connection...
The presumption of online dating is that we should live our lives by the "Amazon model" of "if you liked this, then try that," based on "check-box criteria." It eliminates the human element of experience, nuances of personality, and in-person chemistry and interaction--not to mention the great catch you would have LOVED meeting in a set-up, but would never have seen online! And just as I do not only want to only read books that are exactly like all of the other books I have read, I do not want to date the same guys (i.e. make the same mistakes) I dated 10 years ago--when my "criteria" was so rigid I would have overlooked the great guy who happens to be a few years older, divorced, or not working in 1 of a handful of professions... (And whom I met online, recently!)
Too bad many men out there seem to have forgotten that life is much more interesting when you think--and date--"outside the box."
Reply to: An Orthodox Rabbi Turns Humanist
1 day 55 min ago
My son, raised Reconstructionist Jewish, and his bride-to-be, raised secular and educated in yeshiva, are choosing a secular humanist wedding. I am proud of them, and I honor their choice.
What our ancestors died for--and, never having the opportunity to speak first-hand to them, I did not discuss it with them--was the right to be Jewish, not ONE KIND of Jewish. If you were Sephardic, if you were Lubavitcher, if you were Bengali, if you were Ethiopian,you wanted the right to be Jewish, not the right to be one kind of Jewish.
We are not a unilateral group of people, and each of us practices our Judaism a little differently. That one group of people choose to be Jews practicing the tenets of Judaism how they see it--why is that anyone else's business? Our powerful and long-lasting culture and our traditions and our very ethical belief system tell us that, no matter what branch, no matter what background, no matter what town, village or country--Jewish identity is strong. And it is more than the belief in the supernatural--it is everything we are.
If you are a person who practices your Judaism exactly the way your great-great-grandparents did 5000 miles away, then what have you learned from our world today? And what have you taken from the very cornerstone of Judaism: the value of knowledge and learning?
Some people believe they can be Jews in identity and live among the people of the world today, not apart. And they, too, deserve the honor and support of their choices.