Finally! Advice on Whether or Not Jewish Boys are Dateable!
06/20/2012 - 14:09
Gabriela Geselowitz
Shown Here: Quality Journalism
Shown Here: Quality Journalism

When my friend sent me a link with “date-jewish-boy” in the URL, I had hoped that Andrew Garfield had finally decided to ask me out.  Alas, instead I was sent this article by the “Elite Daily.”

The Elite Daily, an online magazine, claims to be “The Voice of Generation-Y.”  The article is entitled “Would You Date: The Jewish Boy.”

It’s difficult to pick out a few anecdotes from this article.  Each one is a gem.  The article’s introduction kindly explains that “Jewish people are also labeled with several stereotypes, both negative and positive,” and then proceeds to list them as statements of fact and how it affects the desirability of a Jewish boy in “Pros” and “Cons.”

“Pros” include “They are smart and successful” because “The ZBT frat stars at Syracuse where the boys are bound to inherit their father’s million dollar business. These are clearly husband material.”

You’re too kind.

At least they apparently also are “family oriented” and have “a good sense of humor.”  But then the article starts listing the “Cons.”

The very first Con is: “They tend to like their own kind.”  I can just hear Rita Moreno from West Side Story singing in my ear.

The Cons actually manage to get worse from there, perhaps reaching their most... pointed at “They Are Cheap,” as illustrated by a photo of a hand reaching for a penny on the ground.

The article has no byline, nor is there a place to leave comments. This mysterious Steve Irwin-like expert on Jewish boys sums up her argument with “I’m a girl, trust me I know what I’m talking about.”

I wonder if she has that on a diploma hanging in her office.

I had never heard of Elite Daily, but searching through it, “Generation-Y” seems to mean well-to-do white YUPpies; articles range from finance (lots of finance) to a guide to “Frenemies.”

In some ways, this article was a relief.  I encounter so much subtle anti-Semitism that is difficult to articulate my complaint or pinpoint why it makes me uncomfortable.  The further I read in this piece, the more blatantly offensive it became.  You have to at least give it credit for no ambiguity.

The “About” section of Elite reads: “Life can be hard to interpret, Elitedaily.com is an all-encompassing site that aims to deliver editorial depicting the world the way it is.”

If the “world the way it is” is a series of two-dimensional, outdated, insensitive, wildly offensive generalizations about ethnic groups with histories of discrimination, than congratulations Elite, you are spot on.

If this is Generation-Y, I want a new birth date.

Comments

This is from Generation Y? I am from the "Greatest generation", the 40's, married in 1950, a ninety year old woman still married to my 92 year old husband, who everyone admits looked like a movie star in his youth, which wasn't why I chose him! Comically it was because I was 26 years old and he was the best I could do! Most Jewish men(boys?) in my generation wanted to date and marry non-Jewish females. Or wealthy Jewish young women. Both my husband and I came from modest backgrounds, immigrant parents but we were educated and trained for good jobs, etc. And to Jayson Barr: I was a feminist before the word existed, so stay in South America, no one misses you! Marriage and religion are personal: do what is best for you and good wishes!

Join a small shul,find comfort in torah.And oh yes,have your own good time.

Jewish boys? Okay.
James Franco, Seth Rogen, Jake Gyllenhaal, Drake, Paul Rudd, Adam Levine, Shia Labeouf, for starters.

My mother's family were Romaniotes and my father was a Greek and Sicilian. I'm an athiest... When I was single dated many gorgeous Jewish men. My greatest love was a Jewish boy who looked like Leonard Cohen... Let's move away from the sterotypes, misogyny and misandry, please.

My Mother Was Jewish and My Father Was German. I Favor The Jewish Side. However I Do Not Hate Any AnyBody. Thanks.

Wow, I'm shocked. Almost every single one of these comments are *nasty* and seem to come from some really dark places.

Assuming you are all Jews... have you no where else to put your vitriol, negative outlooks on life, horrible stereotypes, nasty things to say?! Your internalized anti-semitism is dripping -- and most of you are probably 50+ years old -- you should be ashamed of yourselves! Grow up.

I am a beautiful, 33 year old, feminist, single, Jewish woman who loves her life, loves men, is proud of her feminist foremothers and guess what -- Jewish men *love* me. Please go get some new perspective before you make your awful comments.

As far as the article goes - kol haKavod. I hope Jewish men read it so they can see how rich, gentile women really think of them.

Robert Zimmerman( Bob Dylan) I s a gorgeous Jewish man and when he was young just lived his life and let it take him where ever , he married a lovely Jewish lady and he rest is history, so Jewish Ladies just go out there and be yourself I am sure there must be quite a lot of Lovely Jewish men out there who are not all about money from all walks of life I am not in America but Australia and there are quite a few in my neck of the woods cheers, just don't be over anguish and I am sure one will fall in your lap somewhere cheers folks

Change your behaviour and your reputation will rise, treat others like yourselves want to be treated.Keep it that way and you will ever haunted by the past.

Consider the enormous gene pool and numbers lost in the Holocaust, add in the many manifestations of the male resentment (some heeded) of women's "empowerment" and you have a recipe for for severe shortage of suitable men for the many desperate single women "out there"..there just is a dearth of Jewish men period. Many have gone to alternative lifestyles or bury themselves in striving and obsession with technology. Very sad state of the world

Not a need to go to Vietnam or Philippines Anonymous. I went to South America and married a beauty many years ago. Had enough of that feminism crap....life's been beautiful for the last 30 years. The guys in the condo have wrinkled prunes to scream at them and I have the looker.

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